10 Lessons in 20 Years of Marriage with Melanie Durkin

My wife Melanie and I are celebrating 20-years of marriage this week (Feb 17th). WOW. I can’t believe it’s already been 20-years. Little did I think when I was checking out the attractive step-aerobics instructor in the late ’90s when I was in graduate school, that she would eventually become my wife. 

Today, Melanie is my special guest on the IMPACT Show as we share our Top 10 lessons from 20-years of marriage. I asked Melanie to pick her Top 5 lessons and I have my Top 5 lessons. The best part is that we did NOT reveal our lessons to each other before the Show.

After 20-years of marriage and having 3-kids, I can say we are now more in sync and in-love with each other than ever. But it hasn’t always been that way and we even share some of our more challenging times as well in today’s episode. Furthermore, we share what got us through the tough times when we haven’t been on the same page.

Enjoy this fun episode as it’s always good to have my better half on the Show revealing all my bad habits and secrets. I believe today’s episode will help you laugh, learn, and love today more than normal…and it will put a huge smile on your face.

Additionally, if you enjoy today’s Q&A episode, please share it with your community and on your social media. Please be sure to tag Melanie and me so we can reciprocate some love! 

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More on the episode:

2:00 – Our Journey and The Dates That Matter 
January 1997 Day 1 of my new job at SDSU when I met Melanie. 
October 4th, 1997–our first date. 
December 1997 trip back to Jersey to meet Todd’s family. 
February 17, 2001, the wedding day. 

8:50 – Melanie shares her 1st lesson #1 DON’T QUIT.
We are in it until the end!

10:02 – Todd shares his 1st lesson #2 His best communication happens when driving and working out.
Who has the better sense of direction?
How he almost ends up in Arizona on one of his drives.

11:29 – Lesson #3 from Melanie. Be in Sync, Spiritually, Socially, and Emotionally.

13:55 – Lesson #4 from Todd: The 5 Love Languages 
Melanie’s love language is time. Todd’s love language is Affirmation and Touch.
(Read the book by Gary Chapman called “The 5 Love Languages.”

17:08- Lesson #5 from Melanie: Take Care of Myself So I Can Take Care of Others.
Working out. Eating clean. In sync with healthy habits.

18:29 – Lesson #6 from Todd: Understanding What Makes Melanie Happy.
Time in the kitchen. Clean home. Time with the kids. Yoga.

21:22 – Lesson #7 from Melanie: The Golden Rule – DON’T KEEP SCORE.
Great advice from Father Ben.

23:59 – Lesson #8 from Todd: Happy Wife…Happy Life!
Say yes more, “Yes Dear, Yes Dear, Yes Dear.”

26:35 – Lesson #9 from Melanie: Drop It and Move On. How to NOT go to bed angry.
Unwavering support, and we compliment each other.

31:00 – Lesson #10 from Todd: Faith is the Glue that Holds us Together.
Tough Times. Happy times. Being a parent. Being a spouse.
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he won’t depart from that.

35:11  – Final words and favorite memories in the past 20 years.


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About the Author



Todd Durkin, MA, is a world-renown trainer, coach, author and motivational keynote speaker who trains dozens of elite, high-profile NFL, MLB, and MMA athletes, including two Super Bowl MVP’s, one NFL League MVP, Olympic gold medalists, Heisman Trophy winners, and MMA champions. Todd is a 2-Time Trainer of the Year, the 2017 Jack LaLanne Award recipient, the 2018 Canfitpro International Presenter of the Year, a member of the Under Armour Training Team, and a Top-100 Most Influential People in Health & Fitness.

Todd was a featured trainer on the popular TV show, NBC STRONG, which is now airing on Netflix. His award-winning gym, Fitness Quest 10 in San Diego, CA, is a Top-10 Gym in America and his 3 best-selling books, Get Your Mind Right, The WOW BOOK, and The IMPACT Body Plan, have both changed thousands of people’s lives. If you would like to get motivated and inspired now, you can pick these books up at www.Amazon.com, or if you would like a signed copy, please purchase at www.ToddDurkin.com/
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